Even as a child I always dealt with my own problems partly due to my secretive inclination and having a friend in Jesus who totally understands my issues. So when my challenge started with conception and baby losses it was only natural to stay put and trust God. Every time I was asked what was going on, I just reassured the person that all was well and very soon the baby (babies) would become a reality. But when I was on my own I had to deal with my frustration, doubts and get myself back on the track of faith and the vision that I am a mummy.
For anyone that has been in this position or is currently in this place, it is definitely not an easy place to be. From my observations generally in this area and other areas individuals’ are trusting God for a miracle some people run from place to place, church to church and still with no peace. I totally believe counsel (godly, appropriate and timely) is necessary, useful and liberating. But after the counsel we just need to wait till there is a physical manifestation of the baby in this case.
Personally for me, I wanted to get first hand information from my saviour, teacher, counsellor, redeemer and ‘friend’ what was going on, what I should do and what the future holds. So the advice from others (family, doctors, pastors and friends) was a bonus if deemed applicable. When going through such a challenge everyone would have an opinion, some are bold enough to tell you theirs. But it is not everything I heard I took on board. I learnt to sift counsel through the sieve of God’s word.
God spoke in time past and he still speaks today. He is interested in my affairs and he surely wants to guide and lead me through whatever tunnel, storm and trials of life I encounter. The key if you are still waiting to conceive or believing God for a safe pregnancy and childbirth is to ‘hear’ from God yourself. Perhaps you have prayed and you are still waiting to hear, do be patient till you hear. Sometimes he already has spoken but we are totally unaware. Also if we expect him to speak in a certain way and he does not, we miss what he has to say. From experience after I have heard God, it is much easier to have faith in God and relax because God who said it is more than able to bring his word to pass in my life. However it is in his own time which in hindsight I have come to accept is the best time.
How I hear from God (if you are wondering)
- Through reading my bible (the word of God) certain scriptures stand out and I know he is drawing my attention to them
- Sometimes I hear God speak to me (still voice and audible voice) and he drops a scripture in my mind, sometimes it comes across as a thought i.e. Isaiah 41 verse 10 is one scripture I got through this means
- Through people, nature, events, my experiences and others’ experiences and circumstance
A previous post (‘while you are waiting’) highlights some practical steps you can implement before your bundle of joy arrives.
“I am leaving you with a gift—peace of mind and heart. And the peace I give is a gift the world cannot give. So don’t be troubled or afraid (John 14:27).