The best advice I received from one of our mentors was not to sit at the junction of questions. So I did stand and walk past that junction many times just to get my head around the events surrounding my first son’s death (I had to do something if you know what I mean).
The benefit of asking questions in my opinion enabled me process what really took place, placed me in a better stead to support others, provided me with insight on how to deal with medics and respond to friends and family, it gave me the opportunity to discover God’s take on my predicament, instigated my healing process and served as a form of closure some time down the line.
Of course I did not get answers to all my questions but my time of reflection (both a one- off process immediately after my first loss and a on and off process subsequently) was adequate to keep me sane and enabled me go forward despite the uncertainties and anxiety. But despite the unknown, the peace and comfort I received from God was very real, soothing and assuring that my future would be just fine.
When things make no sense, you are frustrated, fed up and perhaps feel like giving up. Remember the word of God to you in Jeremiah 29:11
I say this because I know what I am planning for you,” says the Lord. “I have good plans for you, not plans to hurt you. I will give you hope and a good future.